{"id":13814,"date":"2021-02-07T15:26:39","date_gmt":"2021-02-07T20:26:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.gornahoor.net\/?p=13814"},"modified":"2021-04-01T22:43:23","modified_gmt":"2021-04-02T02:43:23","slug":"the-path-of-courtly-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gornahoor.net\/?p=13814","title":{"rendered":"The Path of Courtly Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

\nneither is the man without the woman, nor the woman without the man, in the Lord. ~ 1 Corinthians 11:11\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\n\"Androgyne\"<\/a>
Androgyne<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

\nThere are few people who know the full strength of the different movements of the heart. The vast majority of men are sensitive to only five or six passions in the circle in which their lives are spent and which define the boundaries of their imaginations. Take away love and hate, pleasure and pain, hope and fear, and they will feel nothing. But persons of a nobler character can be moved in thousands of different ways. It seems that they can receive ideas and sensations which surpass the ordinary norms of the common people. ~\u00a0 Abbe Prevost<\/strong>, Manon Lescaut<\/em>\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

There are many paths to God — the ways of the Monk, Ascetic, Mystic, Devotee, Sage. But the most effective, and little known, may be the Way of Courtly Love. This is the path of the Fedeli d\u2019Amore, the Troubadour, the Alchemist, and the Knight Errant. The Muslim mystic, Ibn Arabi<\/strong>, was aware of this path:<\/p>\n

\nContemplation of God without formal support is not possible\u2026 Since therefore some form of support is necessary, the best and most perfect kind is the contemplation of God in women.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Formal manifestation, then, is the stepping stone to formless manifestation, and ultimately to the Supreme Identity. Hence, Dante had Beatrice and Ibn Arabi had Nizam to lead them upward. I have been aware of this path since I was a young man. Although following it often brings heartache, unfortunately even to the innocent, it is nonetheless effective. Herewith, we describe some preconditions and indicate some signposts to follow along the way.<\/p>\n

Emotional Education<\/h2>\n

In the decadent parts of the modern world, great attention is paid to physical and intellectual training, while emotional development is left entirely to chance. Sure, there is talk about \u201cemotional intelligence\u201d, which in practice achieves nothing. There are about a half dozen primary emotions, that can even be observed in babies: delight, fear, anger, surprise, discomfort, sadness. Over time, any developments in emotional responses are usually negative: anxiety, depression, worry, despair, self-doubt, inflation. That is why esoteric training begins with some preliminary objectives:<\/p>\n

\nThe chief practical objectives are mastery of the sexual center, and the training of the emotional center. ~ Boris Mouravieff<\/strong>, Gnosis<\/em>\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Emotional problems are obstacles to the Supreme Identity as they will disappear:<\/p>\n

\nThe only things which have disappeared [in the unconditioned state] are the limiting conditions, which are negative, since they represent no more than a \u201cprivation\u201d. Rene Guenon<\/strong>, Oriental Metaphysics<\/em> [OM]\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Otherwise, the Supreme Identity is the fulfillment all of one\u2019s potentials in his other states:<\/p>\n

\nIn this unconditioned state all other states of being \ufb01nd their place, but they are transformed and released from the special conditions which determined them as particular states. What remains is that which has a positive reality, since herein it is that all things have their own principle; the \u201cdelivered\u201d being is truly in possession of the fullness of his own potentialities. ~ OM\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What are these states? Tradition teaches that the Celestial Ray draws us upward. This vertical ray is perpendicular to the degrees of existence represented by successive planes. Death in one plane is birth in the next. Life then moves in a spiral around the Celestial Ray<\/p>\n

Alchemical Marriage<\/h2>\n

Since its goal is to achieve higher states beyond the merely biological, Alchemical Marriage requires mastery over the sexual center. In carnal love<\/em>, the couple becomes One Flesh. In Courtly Love<\/em>, the creative power of the sexual instinct leads to the couple being One Soul. In Tradition, this state is called the Androgyne. Guenon describes the necessary conditions:<\/p>\n

\nThe union of complements must be regarded as constituting the primordial Androgyne<\/strong> of which all traditions speak. In the totalization of the being, the complements must in fact be in perfect equilibrium, with no predominance of one over the other. ~ Rene Guenon<\/strong>, Symbolism of the Cross<\/em>\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

There is no question of domination, as each soul reaches its full potential with no diminishment.<\/p>\n

There is one precise woman and one precise man. However, when that is not possible there will be others that are \u201cclose enough\u201d. Often, the couple may be geographically and temporarily separated, or one may even be deceased. Nevertheless, St. Paul assures us that no one is deprived (1 Corinthians 11:11).<\/p>\n

Courtly Love<\/h2>\n

\nCourtly Love is the raison d’\u00eatre for the couple of polar [i.e., complementary] beings: for the Knight and the Lady of his Dreams; without it, their polarity remains spiritualty sterile and they fall back into the common condition. Its practice, however, demands sacrifices and ‘exploits\u2019. These are tests. For those who surmount them, the salutary effect of Gnosis is doubled: when it is enriched by experience, theoretical knowledge becomes living knowledge<\/em>. ~ Boris Mouravieff\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Despite his artistic and scientific genius, Goethe failed to realize this courtly love in his ill-fated relationship with Ulrike. He treated her as common and ordinary. Nevertheless, unrequited love is not a failure, as Goethe then entered another creative period of his life. To the age-old question, \u201cHow do I know when I am in Love?\u201d there is this answer:<\/p>\n

\nOn all planes, the objective sign of Love\u2019s participation is the creative spirit which animates the subjects for whom it has become an aim. Conversely, if we think we are in Love but objectively do not notice an increase in creativity on any plane, either in ourselves or in our partner, we can be sure that the relationship is based on anything but Love. ~ Boris Mouravieff\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The Union of Complements<\/h2>\n

The descriptions of this contemplative union are usually one-sided. There are the well-known examples of Dante and Beatrice, Ibn Arabi and Nizam, Hafiz and the beautiful daughter, just to name a few. Some may claim that the women never physically existed, but Ibn Arabi denies it. What became, then, of the \u201creal\u201d Beatrice, the real Nizam, the daughter who become interested in Hafiz, just as he began his vigil. Don\u2019t they deserve a voice in the matter?<\/p>\n

In other words, your polar being is not merely a prop for your spiritual development. In our state of being, she is as much flesh and blood as you are. She needs to be treated that way, since her own development is intertwined with yours.<\/p>\n

I can share some personal experiences that may help you turn \u201ctheoretical knowledge\u201d into \u201cliving knowledge\u201d. Obviously, you wouldn\u2019t want to share the Supreme Identity with a stranger for all eternity, so you need to know your complementary or polar being.<\/p>\n

A woman, at least the one that you should want, desires to be known, just as a man desires to know. It is important so pay attention to her, not just what she says, but more importantly what she means. Often, she does not even know herself, until it is articulated to her.<\/p>\n

A Short Digression<\/h2>\n

In the Turkish telenovela Sahsiyet<\/em>, the female character Nevra resists remembering the one thing that could free her from her life of promiscuity and inner turmoil. Agah, a government functionary his whole life, needs to come to terms with his impending death of his human person. He has been in position of the diary of a girl named Reyhan who was abused by the men of her village. He decides to become a Knight at that point, fights for justice for Reyhan and rescues the damsel Nevra. Agah knows her better that she knows herself, so he executes an elaborate plan that eventually allows Nevra to bring that hidden part of herself into conscious awareness; \u00a0that liberates her.<\/p>\n

Soul knowledge<\/h2>\n

Sibylle surprisingly wrote<\/a>: \u201cTo a woman the love of a man is incomprehensible.\u201d Why would that be? If she is often pursued, she may be confused by the different motivations. If she feels herself to be unlovable, she may reject them all. The one mistake she can make is to assume that mere willfulness is a strength in itself. Then she may try to play the role of the Animus herself and become an ersatz man. Or else, she denies the Animus altogether and lives unconscious of her full potential. There is no way to reconcile those, so the double-mindedness can lead to doubt, division, confusion.<\/p>\n

The Will must be guided by intelligence to be effective. Beatrice and Nizam are Wisdom, so they can pull Dante and Ibn Arabi upward along the Celestial Ray. In the world of flesh and blood, the woman supplies the man with the will to fight his battles. This is always a necessary component in the horizontal planes of existence that still include trial, conflict, and purgation. In exchange, she becomes who she truly is and is herself drawn up the Celestial Ray.<\/p>\n

To write about the polar being only at the human, all-too-human, level will totally miss the point. Rather, it must be described from the states beyond the human state. Moreover, these must not be understood as merely psychological states.<\/p>\n

What follows is a living, not theoretical, description, but don\u2019t assume it refers to a particular living person. It shows what to look for at the higher states of being. Bear in mind that the Person exists in all states simultaneously, even when unaware of them.<\/p>\n

The Active Intellect<\/h2>\n

Buddhi, or Active Intellect, is the first degree of the manifestation of the Androgyne. As such it is formless, not bound by individual conditions. Nevertheless, it is the father of the human intellect. Look, therefore, for someone of the same level of intelligence. While most people can only understand ideas that can be expressed in a slogan, she will have intellectual depth. Hence, she will be interested in high culture including art, poetry, music, mythology, psychology. Besides depth, she has a broad outlook that comes from knowledge of history and of different culture.<\/p>\n

The lower intellect is the passive receptacle of ideas. Those in touch with the Active Intellect, on the other hand, are creators of ideas. She writes text. You share the same worldview to a large extent. You recognize the same landscape she creates, but her different perspective can be disorienting. But that is the motor force that drives the spiral up the Celestial Ray.<\/p>\n

Manas<\/h2>\n

After the Buddhi, Manas is the next degree; it begins to take individual form and is the principle of the individual senses and the organs of action. Manas is the inner sense. Our sensual awareness is not the creation of any physical or corporeal process. Otherwise, there could be no common experience, or experiences in other states of being.<\/p>\n

Each of the five primary senses is related to one of the fundamental elements.<\/p>\n

Vision<\/h2>\n

There are many pretty girls, so what makes one more special than another? The vulgar will gaze at a woman\u2019s physical qualities, so you have the \u201cass man\u201d or the \u201ctit man\u201d. But that is what women share in common, not what makes her unique. To find your Lady, you need to look for the features that set her apart and are meaningful only for you. They reveal more of her inner life than you might suppose.<\/p>\n

As an example, look for qualities like these: The enigmatic color of her eyes, the way she cocks her head, her preference for angles rather than rectangles, her refusal to smile in photographs.<\/p>\n

\n\"Soul<\/a>
\n<\/figure>\n

When you understand that the sense of Vision is associated with the Fire element, you will understand how the mere sight of her sets your heart ablaze. Sometimes it is can become physically painful so you have to look away. But you can\u2019t look away.<\/p>\n

Voice<\/h2>\n

Everything in the universe consists of vibrations, which are beyond matter and energy. Hence, the element Ether is associated with vibrations. It follows, then, that the auditory sense, which converts vibrations, arises with the Ether. Unlike the other gross elements, the Ether is subtle.<\/p>\n

Her voice seems to arise from a transcendent source. The ancients understood this; they weren\u2019t bombarded with a cacophony of noise, so they understood silence. The voice of a Sybil rang true as a prophecy. Sometimes the allure was dangerous, like the tempting sons of the Sirens. But the voice of your Lady is only sweetness.<\/p>\n

If you are fortunate, she will sing for you, and it will sound like the Music of the Spheres. Thanks to the gift of Memory, you can recall the song anytime you want.<\/p>\n

Life is Bittersweet<\/h2>\n

In the Middle Ages, the Knight and his Lady, who considered themselves spiritually ONE did not venture into marriage. On the contrary, they parted, accepting the risk of never meeting again and knowing that if they did not triumph over a hard test, their love would degenerate, losing its meaning and its marvelous power. They knew that, by separating from each other for an exploit<\/em> they had a chance, while a premature marriage would be reduced to nothing. ~ Mouravieff<\/p>\n

The legends of mythology and knightly valor know of these tests. Atalanta would only marry the one who could pass a test; but they allowed their passion to take old and were punished.<\/p>\n

Often the exploit will take the Knight away. If he fails to return, they will need to wait for the next turn of the spiral to meet again. Just as they had promised each other in the previous turn. It sounds bittersweet, so I asked a sweet and insightful friend who explained:<\/p>\n

\nA little bittersweet. It is an art to take pleasure in sorrow.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Appendix<\/h2>\n

For more on Nizam, see The Lady Nizam — an Image of Love and Knowledge<\/a><\/p>\n

William Anderson in Dante, The Maker<\/em> explains the influence of Beatrice on Dante:<\/p>\n

\nThrough his love of her on Earth he formed an indissoluble union of love with her that transcended the incident of her death. She mirrored to him the Incarnation of Christ, and, in purifying his individual nature as a Christian, he found that the only way to the sight of God was through her as the revelation of his soul\u2026 so she, as his illuminated soul represents the search for unity and contains in herself the still causes of history and of creation. Through the love of her his love expands to become the love of God\u2026 she is in him the gateway to ecstatic joy. the source both of his inspiration and his salvation, the maker of him as a torch of living flame and his guide towards the peace which his difficult temperament and the sorrows of his bitter political life so long denied him. Through her guidance he achieved a total transformation in his emotional and intellectual being.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Ibn Arabi describes his first meeting with Nizam, the daughter of a Persian scholar:<\/p>\n

\nNow this shaykh had a daughter, a lissome young girl who captivated the gaze of all those who saw her, whose mere presence was the ornament of our gatherings and startled all those who contemplated it to the point of stupefaction. Her name was Nizam (Harmonia) and her surname \u201cEye of the Sun and of Beauty\u201d. Learned and pious, with an experience of spiritual and mystic life, she personified the venerable antiquity of the entire Holy Land and the candid youth of the great city faithful to the Prophet. Her glance, the grace of her conversation were such an enchantment\u2026 If not for the paltry souls who are over ready for scandal and predisposed to malice, I should comment here on the beauties of her body as well as her soul, which was a garden of generosity\u2026 And I took her as a model for the inspiration of the poems\u2026 although I was unable to express so much as a part of the emotion which my soul experienced and which the company of this young girl awakened in my heart, or of the generous love I felt\u2026 since she is the object of my quest and my hope, the Virgin most pure …\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Yet, his encounter with her, spiritually revealed a sharper aspect:<\/p>\n

\nOne night I was performing the ritual circumambulations of the Ka\u2019abah\u2026 suddenly a few lines of verse came to my mind. I recited them loudly enough to be heard\u2026 No sooner had I recited these verses than I felt on my shoulder the touch of a hand softer than silk. I turned around and found myself in the presence of a young girl, a princess from among the daughters of the Greeks. Never had I seen a woman more beautiful of face, softer of speech, more tender of heart.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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